Monday, June 16, 2008
When Kids are Sick
You know, it's such a shame when kids are sick with some dread ailment. A woman I met while I was on Medifast (well, actually we were online friends like most of you are with me) has a little 3 1/2 year old boy, Julian, who is incredibly cute. Born to Stacy and David Phillips, Julian started out life with Potter's Syndrome; basically his bladder was blocked and he sustained kidney damage in utero. According to Julian's site, most kids with this disorder die within hours of birth. Julian lived, however, which is a miracle that Stacy credits to God's hand guiding the doctors.
Julian finally received a kidney on May 20th of this year, and despite some tough moments, he's doing well. Stacy has been living with him at the Ronald McDonald House in San Jose. Her husband commutes back and forth to Colorado, where they live. Tough stuff. Sick children are not for the weak or the meek. Stacy is one tough cookie. She dropped from 266 lbs. down to around 134 (size 2 petite) in around a year on Medifast. She was (and is) an inspiration to many. One of her weight loss goals was to lose enough to be healthy enough for another pregnancy. That dream came true for her last year, but it ended badly, in a miscarriage. With all of that and with all of Julian's health problems, it has been hard for her to keep the weight off, but she has by no means gained it all back. She struggles, just like I do. We used to talk about that a lot more on our Medifast blogs, but I had been out of touch with her until yesterday. She gave me the update and the link to Julian's site/blog. I wanted to share it with you.
I've come across so many amazing people in the 'net. So many moms and dad who have so many challenges. My daughter was sick a lot as a child. At 5 1/2 months we nearly lost her when she got a virus and became very dehydrated in a matter of hours. Her small intestine folded up (intussuception) and she nearly had to have a bowel resection then. A barium enema straightened it all out, but she continued to have problems. A couple of years ago, she ended up having it resectioned anyway. Add to that the asthma that landed her in the hospital (and ICU) several times, and then the mental illness that caused her to keep mutilating and trying to destroy herself. I know something about parenting a sick child.
Granted, neither of mine had anything like what Julian has, but it's always a strain, isn't it? Knowing that your child is in God's hands, that you have no control over their life or death? I am always amazed at parents and their strength, what they can bear for their children. And you know what? Every single one of them says, "I would trade places with my child if I could." They don't say this because they are masochists. They say it because there is no love like that of a parent for a child (well, most parents, anyway).
I just wanted to share the Phillips' story with you. Visit their site if you have a moment. Pause and pray, if you pray. If not, then send some good vibes to them. Donate to their fund, if you can. Transplants cost around $500,000, and they've raised about $100,000 so far. They're good people and they deserve good things. They're the kind of family that, if I had a lot of money, I'd build them a house near the hospital or pay for the surgery. They're quality.
Thanks for reading. More stories later.
Peace - D