The word that has been going through my brain lately is authenticity. The definition in which I'm particularly interested is this one, from Merriam-Webster online:
3: not false or imitation
I keep getting a lot of emails from one particular person (none of you, and as far as I know, she doesn't know my blog exists. If she does, then so be it). These emails are never personalized in any way; they are simply forwarded crap, mostly of a political or religious nature. Mind you, this person is neither particularly religious nor politically savvy. She never checks out whether or not the contents of the email are factual. Mostly they are sensationalist and just plain wrong. If she took two seconds go to Snopes, she would know that. (For anyone who thinks Obama is the anti-Christ, consider whether or not there are any figures more deserving of that title, like Hitler, for example). As my hubby points out (and he's not religious), the Bible says that the anti-Christ will be well-liked, popular. Hubby thinks he'll probably be a Republican (sorry - his words!)
If she even took the time to write her own thoughts, comments, or even hellos up at the top of the forwarded email, I might take her a little more seriously. Instead, she just blindly forwards everything she comes across. Indiscriminately.
Some of the things I've learned from her emails, besides the fact that she thinks Obama is the anti-Christ, include the following:
- Jesus wants me to profess my belief in Him by forwarding the same tired email to 10 of my friends in the next 10 minutes, including the one who sent it to me!
- If I forward this other email to enough people, Bill Gates will send me money. (How does he know where to send my check?)
- Sarah Palin is adored by everyone in Alaska (uh...)
- If I forward another email, I will get a surprise in my inbox! (The real surprise would be if it automatically blocked the sender from ever bothering me again).
- If we vote for Obama, we are voting for a Muslim president who will overrun us with Islamic extremism. (Does this mean the terrorists will have won?)
As for her religious devotion via emails, the only time I know of that she has darkened the door of a church in the last, oh, twenty years, is for funerals. Does this not make her religiosity somewhat false*? Her deeds are not the deeds of someone dedicated to Christ, so I'm not sure if her 10 forwards in 10 minutes make a difference. She doesn't walk the walk, but she sure talks the talk - at least through other peoples' words in emails that originated God knows where. Heh, get it?
To top it off, she has accused my dear hubby of not having a conscience because he is voting for a Democrat, and Democrats don't have consciences. They are all baby killers, you know. We...that is. I wish I could tell you more about the conversations they had, but in the interest of having a little class on this site, I don't want to out and out reveal her identity in a back door way.
The thing is, she wants to claim she is pro-life, but ... okay, again I'm having to bite my tongue. Let's just say that she hasn't always been so pro-life. I understand that people who are pro-life want to make sure that every child has a right to come into existence once it is conceived. That's a good thought, in theory. But many of these same people believe in the death penalty, so aren't their beliefs at odds? Aren't they inauthentic? So, you'll fight to give someone a right to life, but then you think it's okay to kill them when they're older? You'll be okay with an "abortionist," that is, a doctor who will give a woman a safe, clean place to have a safe, medically sound abortion if she needs it or chooses it, being shot to death outside his clinic?
And what of the kids that are born unwanted, addicted, or damaged from fetal alcohol syndrome? Will you adopt them? Will you make sure they have the medical, social, and psychological resources they need?
My problem is, if you believe something, I want you to really believe it. I want you to put your money where your mouth is. I want you to walk the walk. I want you to be authentic. With me, what you see is what you get. I won't shove my views down your throat or blindly forward emails. If I forward an email to you, I'll include a respectful note at the top with my own thoughts on the piece, and I'll check it out first to make sure it is authentic and factual. I walk the walk. I detest hypocrisy.
This person is in serious danger of permanently damaging the relationship she has with us, and it doesn't seem to click with her. Her vitriolic rantings are like poison, destroying whatever she comes in contact with. It's hurtful to her own mental and physical health to go around so bitter, angry, and - well - wrong. I don't know how she sleeps at night. I'm very bothered that she has decided to start dumping on us.
It bothered me for quite a while today, and then hubby said something that made me realize that one of the events involving us and this person from the distant past has never been forgiven nor forgotten by him. I never realized it stuck with him the way it did. I had tried to let it go. When he mentioned it, I thought, "Yeah. That was really painful and goes against everything she professes to believe now." Inauthentic. A big part of my heart swelled with happiness that he was so protective of me as to hold onto that memory for all these years. It made me realize how deeply he loves me.
And that makes everything worthwhile. I love having authenticity in my life. How about you?
(*refer back to the definition of authentic)
Peace - D