Thursday, February 12, 2009

Valentine's Day Meme

Because grad school is kicking my butt, today's entry is going to be a meme which, as I pointed out to Linda, who tagged me for this one, is pronounced "meem" (see the Urban Dictionary entry and click on Sound at the top). Most people don't know how to pronounce this, because face it - we write to each other without sound. We have to guess a lot of the time. :-)

One thing you won't have to guess about is "Pete" and I. This meme is all about how we met and our particulars. Enjoy!

Where did the two of you meet?
We met on the school bus in high school. We were both new kids, though I had been there a few more months than he.

What was the first thought that went through your head when you first met him?
"Oh God, he is carrying a guitar. I am in so much trouble."

Do you remember what he was wearing?
Jeans and a button down shirt.

Where did you go for your first date?
To the movies. We both worked there, and it was just logical. Plus, we were so broke -- we were just kids!

Where was the first time you kissed?
In his room at his house. His kid brother peeked in the window and later got clobbered for it.

When was the first time you realized you liked him?
I liked him right away, but I thought he was with someone else. Then I decided I really didn't want to get hurt again (I'd had some bad times), so I ruled us "just friends." He became my best friend, and it was a year or so before that changed.

How long did you know him before you became a couple?
A year and a half.

How did he propose to you?
We had talked about marriage several times, but he's an Aquarian, not big on romance. We thought that living together would be fine unless we wanted children, which neither of us were sure about. He went into the Marines in October of 1982, and I was in-processing to go into the Navy. I had taken the ASVAB and was doing delayed entry, staying with my mom until he got out of boot camp. After that, I was going to do the physical and head out myself.

He wrote me a sweet letter in a Christmas card and said, "Don't do it! You'll hate it! Plus, we won't get stationed together." And he went on to say we should get married when he graduated boot camp. That was the proposal, and it was plenty good enough for me. Our wedding was a rush-rush thing, because we were trying to get our families together from two different states, but it all came together. Do I wish it had been more moonlight and romance? Yeah. But look at our staying power!

Do you have kids together?
Yes. A 25-year-old daughter and a 21-year-old son.

Have you ever broken the law together?
In what state?
Yes. And that's as far as that goes!

Do you trust him?
Yes. I don't trust many people, but I trust him.

Do you see him as your partner in your future?
Unless one of us kicks the bucket!

What is the best gift he gave you?
After he quit smoking, in our 10th year of marriage, he started secretly saving up the money he would have used for cigarettes and kept it in a pickle jar. By the time our 10th anniversary rolled around, he surprised me with the very ring I had wanted for our wedding (but which we couldn't afford at the time). He had saved up enough money in his pickle jar! The picture at the top is what the ring looks like. It remains the most romantic, thoughtful gift I've ever gotten.

What is one thing he does that gets on your nerves?
Just one? (chuckle) I'd say the fact that he doesn't take any initiative on lingering projects around the house. I hate to nag!

Where do you see each other 15 years from now?
I imagine we'll both still be working, at 61 years old. I don't know if I'll ever quit working voluntarily, but he might, just so he can buy the sailboat he's always wanted.

What causes the most arguments?
Money and our daughter.

How long have you been together?
Thirty years in October (we met in 1979) and twenty-six years of marriage as of the 19th of this month.

I'm not going to tag anyone, but if you would like to do this meme for Valentine's Day and you have some great memories, it would be terrific if you would share this with us all! Link back to me, if you do.

Peace - D

[Ring photo credit]
[Heart photo credit]


Daryl said...

Aw .. you know I am an Aquarian too and I think I am romantic ... I am not as sensitive as my Virgo husband but I am romantic ...

I think that he bought you that ring with the $$ saved by not smoking was/is truly romantic ...

A Woman Of No Importance said...

My OH is an Aquarian, so it's very interesting you mentioned that - no to romance, thing!

I think the ring is very beautiful, elegant, and a real testament to his long-held love for you!

Lorna said...

This is lovely! I hope that you and your husband have many more happy , full years together.

Mental P Mama said...

I'm an Aquarian, too! Happy Anniversary to be! What a wonderful story.

Hilary said...

Oh the man gets top points for saving up for that ring. What a sweetie. You sure do have a gem there, Doris.

Cloudia said...

30 years. Wonderful.thanks for sharing this post today. SWEEEET!

Deb said...

Hi ~ Thanks for sharing this with us. I love the pickle jar story - the perfect Valentine's Day tale. I could feel the love through your words! Wishing you many more years of life together! Happy Heart Day!

Kat said...

What a great Valentine meme. Love it! And you have such a great story. The saving up for the ring? The most romantic thing ever!!!!
Have a great Valentine's Day!

Akelamalu said...

Aw I so love a Love Story! :)

The ring is just beautiful.

Lavinia said...

What a sweet post. I am glad to learn the background. Wonderful staying power! What's even better is that it comes across loud and clear that you two stay together out of love and respect and wanting to be together. Alot to be said for that! The ring story is especially romantic, I would treasure that ring beyond reason too~!

Moannie said...

I just knew there was a very romantic tale behind your doors, and the ring monet in the pickle jar...that is soooooooooooo romantic. I love it.

Employee No. 3699 said...

That ring is beautiful and the story behind it even more so. Hope you and 'Pete' have a great V-Day!

SandyCarlson said...

He is one lucky dude. This post touched my heart. Your ring is beautiful. That part of the story just made my day. What a thoughtful guy, and what a great gift.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Lavinia said...

Happy Valentines Day Riverpoet. Hope its a great day for you and your sweetheart....and the dogs too of course!


Congrats to you my friend!!! What a beautiful love story u two share :) Hope u had a great Valentine's Day !! take care,
Julian xoxo

Sandy said...

Happy Anniversary a tad early. That is SO romantic.

p.s. Bel Canto means "beautiful song."

Not Afraid to Use It said...

What a phenomenal post! The ring is beautiful, but not nearly as the story behind it. I can't wait to share it with Hubbie.

Gretchen said...

I'm honored you liked my Irish Heart enough to include it in your blog. I'd like to add a link back to the original entry. heArt #7 Irish Heart Spiral - heArt-a-Day blog